“In order to save myself I must first dismantle the me I was told to be”
A client told me on her final session that she had thought that she was “too broken” for therapy.
It’s confusing when your mind is in turmoil, and you can’t seem to find a beginning or an end: how do you tell someone else what is wrong when you don’t know yourself? Perhaps there’s nothing wrong, maybe you are just “inadequate”; “neurotic”; or just “discontented” What is a therapist going to think of you?
I welcome confusion, chaos, turmoil and “broken”. Apart from anything else, I suspect that everyone feels that way at some time in their lives.
I see my job as primarily to bring about change and my experience is that turmoil, confusion, chaos, brokenness can change: It’s been my privilege to be part of that process for many clients.
I have experienced therapy from the client’s chair as the result of a very troubled childhood which was very damaging. It was not my experience of being broken that led me to train to be a therapist, my experience in itself, is not what is useful to my clients; it is the insight and empathy that have been developed in me through learning to heal. Your experience is unique and your path will be unique. I can help you to sort out your thoughts and feelings, to identify the changes that you want, those that you want to make, those that you are able to make and those that you are willing to make.