Category: Comment & Columnists

  • Marriage research: Marriage Foundation in the media

    Marriage research: Marriage Foundation in the media

    Harry Benson, Sorted Columnist and Research Director at the Marriage Foundation shares some of the stories which have hit the headlines.

    Sunday Telegraph Couples who marry because of family pressure 50 per cent more likely to divorce
    Harry Benson, Marriage Foundation’s research director, commented: “What this research shows conclusively is that the reasons why people get married has a significant material impact to whether they stay together. While this might seem obvious, this has never been quantified. But the message is clear. Get married for love and your future together and not because it is either expected of you or because of family pressure.”

    Sunday Express: Married pop and rock stars are TWICE as likely to get divorced – study
    Top actors and sports stars also have a higher chance of splitting up than non-celebrities but musicians are top of the divorce charts. Researchers from the Marriage Foundation have been tracking nearly 500 A-list celebrities who tied the knot between 2001-2010 in ceremonies which featured in Hello or similar magazines.

    Financial Times: Lawyers urge UK ministers to speed up reform of cohabitation rights
    Harry Benson, research director at the Marriage Foundation, a charity that champions the institution of marriage, said introducing a new law would effectively remove the need for couples to make a decision on their future relationship commitment. Also what is the legal definition of cohabitation — is it when couples move in together? How is that defined? When they bring the toothbrush or the suitcases?”

    Mail on Sunday: As it’s revealed rock stars are TWICE as likely to divorce as the average person, here are the couples who’ve beat the odds – and the musicians who weren’t so lucky
    Harry Benson, research director of the think tank and study author, suggests the reason celebrities are bucking this trend, despite being at the top of the income scale, is fame. In the paper he writes that the ‘ego and opportunity’, which go hand in hand with being a famous name, is the most likely explanation for the group’s higher divorce rates. This potentially relationship-destroying combination is particularly in evidence with musicians due to their lifestyle, he says.

    The Marriage Foundation have also appeared or been quoted in Conservative Woman, Daily Mail, Daily Mirror, Independent, i paper, Mail on Sunday, The Week,Times, BBC Radio 5 live and BBC Radio Bristol

    Main photo credit: Peter Lawrence via Unsplash

  • Marriage research: ‘Sliding’ into marriage linked to high divorce rates

    Marriage research: ‘Sliding’ into marriage linked to high divorce rates

    Throughout Marriage Week 7th-14th February 2023, Harry Benson, Sorted Columnist and Research Director at the Marriage Foundation shares a series of daily articles about the latest academic research.

    Harry writes: Couples who slide into marriage have higher divorce rates than those who decide, according to our survey of 905 ever married adults. It’s all about commitment! Couples who “slide into marriage”, because of family pressure, are up to 50 per cent more likely to divorce than those who marry for love.

    Our survey looked at 905 couples who married for the first time after the year 2000 in the era of online dating. They were asked how much they agreed or disagreed with each of twelve reasons for why they might have got married.

    Those who said they: “felt they had to marry due to family pressure” i.e. due to social pressure, had a significantly higher probability of divorce at just 34 per cent compared to 23 per cent of couples who did not identify these reasons.

    Those who agreed that their marriage “just kind of happened” i.e. slide into it, had a 29 per cent probability of divorce over the duration of the study compared to 22 per cent of those who disagreed.

    In contrast, those who were more intentional about their marriage, who agreed that they married “in order to build our life together” i.e. as the cornerstone of life together, were more likely to stay together. They divorced at an overall rate of just 24 per cent compared to 37 per cent among those who did not agree.

    Read our report here

    Main photo courtesy of Harry Benson

  • Marriage research: Rock ‘n rollers have the highest celeb divorce rates

    Throughout Marriage Week 7th-14th February 2023, Harry Benson, Sorted Columnist and Research Director at the Marriage Foundation shares a series of daily articles about the latest academic research.

    Harry writes: Rock’n rollers have the highest celebrity divorce rates, finds our latest analysis. Our new report, covered in the Sunday Express and Mail on Sunday, shows who has bucked the trend.

    Rock stars face the highest risk to their marriages, perhaps due to adrenaline-fuelled nightly performances on tour in front of huge crowds followed by after parties, alcohol and opportunity! Despite their wealth, money doesn’t seem to protect the marriages of celebrities.

    The problem is fame. In my analysis, I’ve divided celebrities into categories of music, screen, and sports/other. At 60%, music stars have the highest divorce rate over 18 years, followed by screen stars at 53%. Sports and other stars have the lowest divorce rate at 42%, yet this is still higher than the UK average at 32%.

    While fame itself may not be quite so toxic for sportsmen and women whose daily routines tend to involve tremendous self-discipline and little to no alcohol, ego and opportunity are clearly sufficient to raise divorce risk above average levels.

    For screen stars it is easy to imagine how inappropriate close relationships can become established with other fellow actors because of the intimacy and suspension of normal daily life required to pretend to be somebody else during a film or theatre season.

    But it is rock stars who face the highest risk to their marriages.

    Read our report here.

    Photo: Wikimedia Commons

  • Marriage research: Births outside marriage above 50% for first time

    Throughout Marriage Week 7th-14th February 2023, Harry Benson, Sorted columnist and Research Director at the Marriage Foundation, shares a series of daily articles about the latest academic research.

    Harry writes: Births outside of marriage have been hovering just below 50 per cent for the past decade. A sharp increase above 50 per cent in 2021 is almost certainly a knock-on effect of the ban and restrictions on marriage during lockdown in the previous year.

    New births data for 2021 from the Office for National Statistics have shown a sharp fall in births within marriage to below 50% for the first time. But have a deeper look and you can see that the share of births within marriage has fallen between 5% and 8% across all socio-economic groups. This is a phenomenon that has affected everyone.

    In typical years, as many as one in six marriages take place either just before or just after their baby is born. Many of these couples will have been forced to delay their wedding. Although the overall trend remains down, we should expect to see some sort of rebound in births within marriage in 2022.
    Read my full comment here.

    Photo: Negative Space

  • Marriage research: Divorce cases rose by 9.6% in 2021

    Marriage research: Divorce cases rose by 9.6% in 2021

    Throughout Marriage Week 7th-14th February 2023, Harry Benson, Sorted Columnist and Research Director at the Marriage Foundation shares a series of daily articles about the latest academic research.

    Harry writes: Divorces were up by 9.6% in 2021. According to new figures from the Office for National Statistics there was a big rise in divorce in 2021. Some of this is real. But most is a one-off due to lockdown and court delays.

    We have seen little to no indication of a big rise in 2021 divorces either from lockdown surveys that look at how much people are thinking about divorce or the Ministry of Justice figures that report divorce applications. We wrote a report on this here.

    So does this 9.6% rise suggest a problem with marriages or a problem with the divorce system?

    One way of looking at it, is to recognise that almost all changes in divorce rates over the past 40 years have come from divorces granted to wives rather than husbands. This system changed in April 2022 but it gives us a way of seeing if there’s any real change.

    If the recent rise is all about the system, we should see fluctuations in the husband divorces in the last few years. And we did. Read my full comment here.

    Main photo courtesy of This Morning

  • Long read: “A filthy, ugly game”

    Long read: “A filthy, ugly game”

    Strains of Sweet Chariot grow ever louder. The rain hammers down without mercy. The Guinness flows. A beautiful kick by Farrell. The crowd bounces with gleeful cheer. Tensions rise. Excitement mounts. We’re close to the end. The seconds are ticking. I watch, unaware that within a few days the Covid Pandemic will shut down the whole shooting match. Rewind three years; the Six Nations Rugby Championship is well underway and the Scottish team are going head to head with the English team. But to which players have I pledged my allegiance? Exactly where does my loyalty and commitment lie? Who am I cheering for?

    Turns out I’m cheering for anyone who’s doing their level best. I’m even cheering for the referee because he seems like a decent bloke. The camera and production crews are doing a sterling job. The commentators are on top form. So whose side am I actually on? I can claim genuine Scottish, English and Irish ancestry, so broadly speaking, I just can’t lose. My somewhat fickle allegiance will, for the remainder of the weekend at least, rest firmly with the winning side, whoever they are. By the end of today I will be victorious. It’s a certainty. I will happily identify with whichever team wins the match. “A filthy, ugly game” the commentator spits out with bright resounding Celtic force. In this battle only one team will be the conquerors. And it will be my team. My boys will win. And after downing a couple of Guinness, that seems like a perfectly fair and reasonable outcome to me.

    And isn’t that the way? Honestly? Don’t we naturally prefer to identify with the winning team? And, depending on how poorly they’ve played, we might want to distance ourselves from the losing team. Unpacking this, in terms of any kind of allegiance we may have towards a faith organisation, is a complex matter. If a particular denomination or church leader is on the receiving end of bad press the shock waves reach far beyond their immediate circle. The whole organisation can quickly fall into disrepute. Faithful supporters may feel badly let down and may voice their disillusionment. They may withdraw their giving. Those in positions of power or influence are often quick to make public statements about their take on the matter. Sometimes these statements are supportive, at other times they denounce any connection to the leader in question. The public pile in; adding fuel to the fire. It’s a different kind of “filthy, ugly game” but the “managers” are still the ones in the firing line. In faith organisations the winners and losers aren’t nearly as clear cut as they are in sporting events. And some players may be so desperately wounded and damaged that they never find the strength to return to the arena. Not even as a spectator.

    Dare I make reference to political parties at this juncture? The never ending game of politics, both at home and abroad seems to have grown especially “filthy and ugly” to me of late. I’m currently disinclined to pledge my allegiance to anyone at national level. Perhaps I’m being naïve. I’m definitely shirking my civic duty. I feel pretty lousy about that actually, especially in view of all those women who campaigned and sacrificed so that I could vote. For two months I stopped watching the news on television. The first couple of weeks were so liberating that it took a while for me to resume the habit. I’ve been less inclined to engage with political stories than I’ve ever been. In some respects I stand in awe of working politicians because of their tenacity to stay in such a brutal game. They face such cruel public scrutiny. It’s a marvel that they manage to win the allegiance of a single constituent, let alone turn up for work and do their actual job. Before the pandemic filled the news I noticed myself dodging stories about politics whenever they popped up on social media too. My mood improved but the guilt nearly crushed me.

    Perhaps to some extent this need we feel to be counted with the winning team is rooted in how we perceive the perception others have of us. I’ll say that again. Our allegiance may be influenced by how we perceive others are perceiving us because of the team, tribe or group to which we belong. Figuratively speaking each of us loosely belongs to a poorly defined tribe, by birth or by choice. Human beings are tribal by nature. This makes it all too easy to be judged as guilty, or not guilty, by association. Such perceptions can and do affect our acceptance and inclusion by others in broader society.

    Our perceived tribal membership can, for instance, affect whether or not our children get a place in the local primary school, whether we’re offered a job, whether we’re invited to the networking party. The Oxford Graduate is more likely to secure the high level job than the ex-con. The ex-con is more likely to be invited to join the local mafia than the Oxford Grad. The well connected London-based journalist with a Fleet Street pedigree is more likely to secure the lucrative publishing deal than the unknown working class northerner beavering away out in the back of beyond (not that I’m bitter). These perceptions about which tribe we are notionally part of, ill-defined and illusive as they are, matter quite a lot.

    Being a person of faith is a rewarding path which many folks choose, but it also opens up a whole world of competing loyalties, commitments and potential embarrassments.

    To whom have you pledged your allegiance? The trendy burgeoning mega-church may seem like the cool place to be, but does the celebritisation of its leaders make you feel uncomfortable? The concert type worship may be exhilarating but does the hyped up sermon exhorting you to be a totally awesome dude leave you feeling exhausted? The traditional church may seem stable and accountable, but does the glacial pace of change paralyse your hopes for improvement? The richness of ancient liturgy may stir your soul but does the stand-up-sit-down routine jangle your nerves? The warmth of maternal fellowship may be deeply comforting but does belonging to an old dears’ club undermine your hard earned street cred?

    The very act of choosing to pledge allegiance and self-identify yourself with any group of humans, anywhere on the planet, has the inherent potential to cause you irritation, embarrassment, and even shame, as sure as day follows night. It’s an inescapable part of our flawed humanity. No sports team, no political party, no faith group, no church community, no educational institution, no geographical area, no wider family, no profession, no collection of living, breathing human beings are exempt from making mistakes and getting it wrong, sometimes terribly wrong. Fellow members of your chosen tribe may even offend you. They may go off in a different direction than originally promised or expected. Leaders in particular, and their associated agendas, may come and then quite unexpectedly, go.

    We may crave stability but to expect it all the time is certain folly. Expectations of non-stop perfect conditions for personal comfort and fulfilment may seem hopeful but they aren’t rooted in reality. If we pledge our allegiance, that is to say our loyalty and commitment, to a group of fellow humans we must keep our expectations at a realistic level, or face up to the eventual disappointment. There is no ideal tribe. People can, and most likely will, let us down. But we in turn can certainly, by design or default, let others down. When we have learned to live, and indeed thrive, under the almost unbearable weight of this truth, we can feel more relaxed and enjoy a certain sort of freedom about the fickle allegiances of tribe. The value of this freedom can’t be understated.

    I say fickle because it’s all too easy, in our flawed humanity, to transfer our favour to the winning team. For all the world it appeared as though I was switching sides during the Six Nations Rugby Championship. But in my heart, in the very deepest part of me, I was delighting in the human endeavour on display. I was proud of the skill, the effort, the split second decisions, the honour, the fairness, the justice. When my children were little they sometimes protested: “You’re always on his side!” My response? “I’m the Mum, I’m on everyone’s side.”

    It can be a little disarming when we consider that God may be on everyone’s side. Perhaps He too sits on the side-lines, simply delighting in the effort of our human endeavour. Perhaps God doesn’t even see sides in the way we do. Perhaps now, in the face of much social and economic turbulence, fairness and kindness and love are the things which register with Him.

    Main photo courtesy of Six Nations Rugby Championship

  • Diabetes: the facts

    With a massive rise in the prevalence of diabetes in the UK, Dr Ken looks at ten common myths that need busting.

    In 2000 there were approximately 1.5 million people with diabetes – now it’s almost four million. In addition, it is estimated that there are almost a million people with diabetes which has not yet been diagnosed. 90% of those with diabetes have type 2, where the body does not produce enough insulin, or the insulin is not used properly. Type 2 diabetes is mainly lifestyle-related and develops over time. Almost 10% of people with diabetes have type 1 – here the cells in the pancreas no longer make insulin. Type 1 diabetes is a genetic condition that often shows up in younger life.

     From the common to the more obscure, be wary of the many myths that surround this subject:

    Myth 1: Type 2 diabetes is a mild form of diabetes

    There is no such thing as mild diabetes. All diabetes is serious and, if not properly controlled, can lead to serious complications.

    Myth 2: People with diabetes cannot have sugar and should avoid grapes and bananas

    Having diabetes does not mean a sugar-free diet is necessary. People with diabetes should follow a healthy balanced diet – low in fat, salt and sugar. Diabetics sometimes believe they can’t eat grapes or bananas, as these taste sweet. But if you eat a diet that includes these fruits, you can still achieve good blood glucose control. In fact, grapes and bananas, like all fruit, make a very healthy choice.

    Myth 3: People with diabetes should eat ‘diabetic’ foods

    ‘Diabetic’ labelling tends to appear on sweets, biscuits and similar foods that are generally high in saturated fat and calories. These foods, including ‘diabetic’ chocolate, still affect your blood glucose levels. Also, they are expensive – and they can give you diarrhoea. If you are going to treat yourself, go for the real thing.

    Myth 4: It’s not safe to drive if you have diabetes

    Providing you are responsible and have good control of your diabetes, research shows that people with diabetes are no less safe on the roads than anyone else.

    Myth 5: People with diabetes can’t play sport

    People with diabetes are encouraged to exercise as part of a healthy lifestyle. Keeping active can help reduce the risk of complications associated with diabetes, such as heart disease. Steve Redgrave, Olympic gold medal-winning rower, has accomplished great sporting achievements in spite of having diabetes. However, there may be some considerations to take into account before taking up a new exercise regime. Talk to your healthcare team for more information.

    Myth 6: People with diabetes are more likely to get colds and other illnesses

    While there is some medical research that may suggest people with diabetes are at higher risk of developing illnesses, there’s nothing to prove this conclusively. But there are certain illnesses that are more common in people with diabetes, and diabetes may also alter the course of an illness – for example, the illness may be more severe or prolonged.

    Myth 7: Having diabetes means you can’t do certain jobs

    Having diabetes should not stop you from getting and keeping a job. However, despite the Equality Act 2010 (Disability Discrimination Act in Northern Ireland), people with diabetes still face blanket bans in some areas of employment, including the armed forces.

    Myth 8: People with diabetes can’t wear flight socks

    Many flight socks carry the warning that they are not suitable for people with diabetes. If you have any circulatory problems or complications with your feet, such as ulcers, then speak to your GP before using them. If, however, your feet and legs are generally healthy and you are normally active, using flight socks is unlikely to do you any harm.

    Myth 9: People with diabetes can’t cut their own toenails

    This simply isn’t true. The general advice on toenail cutting applies to everyone. If you have diabetes you should keep your nails healthy by cutting them to the shape of the end of your toes. Remember, your nails are there to protect your toes.

    Myth 10: People with diabetes eventually go blind

    Although diabetes is the leading cause of blindness in people of working age in the UK, we know that you can reduce your chances of developing diabetes complications – such as damage to your eyes – if you:

    ■ control your blood pressure, glucose, and blood fat levels

    ■ keep active

    ■ maintain your ideal body weight

    ■ give up smoking

    If you have diabetes or are concerned about it, you should talk to your GP and make sure you’re getting the correct information to support you in making healthy choices. 

  • Beyond the banter: A man and his map

    Beyond the banter: A man and his map

    I like to think I know the way to somewhere. Even when I don’t know, I like to pretend that I do. And dare I admit that I’m reluctant to take advice on directions?There is a solution to this quandary. A map!

    Wherever I go on holiday I feel the need to have a map. I think it’s to do with being secure, getting my bearings, establishing where I am. Perhaps it’s an ancient call from the hunter-protector within, to ensure that the way ahead avoids points of potential ambush while passing through places of peaceful refuge. I have a whole box full of maps from a lifetime of going places.

    Maps are great! They can help you identify remote beaches, rugged coastlines and off-shore islands. Maps are really useful for working out the quickest route to anywhere from somewhere. You can trace the meanderings of rivers, streams and footpaths. You can pinpoint post offices and other timeless features. Most importantly, you can find your way when you are lost.

    These days, many of us make use of digital maps and Satnav. But as clever as these things are to get you from A to B, a man with a massive concertina of a physical map in his hand is clearly an explorer, a pioneer, a master of all his eye can see.

    Until, of course, it’s foggy. Then, it’s a different story. Suddenly there’s an insecurity, an inability to intuitively know the way; a reluctance to bluff or speculate; a lostness; a longing perhaps for home and safety. A torch might be helpful but we didn’t think to bring that, and anyway, it’s not that much use in fog because there’s too much reflection. What we need at that moment is not a map or a torch, but a compass, to enable us to press on in the right direction.

    It’s a relief when the curtain of fog is raised and the sun pierces through. Everything is clearly visible. We know exactly where we are again and we can see where we’re going. No more need to guess or pretend everything’s okay. In the aftermath it’s a small story to tell in the midst of a bigger story of life’s adventure.

    For me, God’s word works a bit like a compass, helping me to find my way back home through the fog. Psalm 119:105 in The Message says: By your words I can see where I’m going. They throw a beam of light on my dark path.

    Main photo credit: Abillion Tefccu via Unsplash

  • Beyond the banter: “We’re all Doomed!”

    Beyond the banter: “We’re all Doomed!”

    Have you seen the popular sit-com Dad’s Army? It’s based on the activities of the Home Guard during the Second World War. I readily identify, either in my own life or in what I’ve observed in others, with the strengths, weaknesses and tendencies in many of the characters. As with most sit-coms there’s an element of truth in the ridiculous scenarios which are painted. I love the variety of personalities portrayed, and the almost impossible task that Captain Mainwaring had of shaping that disparate bunch of volunteers into an effective platoon.

    It’s my namesake, Fraser, who dramatically delivers the wide-eyed catch phrase “We’re all doomed”. The circumstances of life can come against us and immobilise us. Strong and bitter winds can blow us off course, producing a feeling of lostness. Storms can arise and shipwreck our hopes and dreams, leaving us with a sense of failure and confusion, wondering where we go from here.

    In order to distract from all this, some men take refuge in pursuits which are not helpful, playing computer games late into the night, flirting with addictive web sites, drowning sorrows with a few too many beers or finding a sense of relief in drugs. At best all these escapes can offer is temporary respite from life’s pressures. At worst, they increase the likelihood of relationship breakdown, deeper entrapment and yet more feelings of failure to deal with. Men are notorious for not wanting to face up to the reality of what they have become. They would rather run away into the bushes to hide or wear some kind of fig leaf to cover things up.

    Life is not a precise science. It is not something we can easily control. There’s a strong likelihood that unforeseen things will crop up. As I write this, some are still recovering from the effects of the Covid pandemic, longing for a time when things get back to some sort of normal. But what if it doesn’t? What then?

    I heard on the radio that former star of Tottenham Hotspur, Garry Mabutt, made over one thousand telephone calls to club supporters during the pandemic. It inspired me to make more effort to ring friends and keep connections alive. The alternative is to just hunker down and drift along, unwittingly opting to live my life with a high degree of unfulfilment and disappointment. Do I want to leave the planet regretting my lack of connection, my failures and under-achievements, or would it be better to leave a legacy in the lives of others? If I opt for the former, then maybe Fraser was right, and we are all doomed.

  • Long read: How I felt watching someone break into a local church

    Long read: How I felt watching someone break into a local church

    It’s early morning. I’m emerging from a deep sleep, drinking instant coffee and aimlessly scrolling through my Facebook feed. A post pops up which catches my eye. Someone is filming themselves breaking into a church. And it’s a church I know. Suddenly I’m wide awake. On red alert. Violated. Panicking. Should I phone someone? The police? The vicar?

    This particular church is where my beloved Dad, and many years later, my son were confirmed. On that happy day, the enormous building was full to bursting with young people and their families. The clergy processed in all their finery and the church looked magnificent.

    The 35-minute film begins with a dark street scene outside the derelict church. I watch aghast as the walking narrator calmly makes his announcement from behind the moving camera. In gravelly Salford tones, he tells me, without a hint of shame, that he is about to “infiltrate this old gaff”. For a moment I seriously consider jumping in my car and driving down there in my PJs. To do what exactly? Give him a piece of my mind? Clip him round the earhole? This video isn’t live, it was shot a few days ago, so all I can do is watch helplessly as the break-in unfolds.

    The camera pans across the busy street to the church before zooming up to the top of the imposing church tower. The narrator continues: “You can see the windows up at the top man, it’s so cool. You can see the original gate there. And just look up top at the gargoyles looming over us in the night sky! So foreboding and so cool.” Cue spooky 1970s horror film music and a grainy red filter.

    Once inside the building the narrator reduces the volume of his voice to a theatrical whisper. The piped background music takes on a more sinister tone and the light of the camera flashes randomly around in the pitch black of the cavernous basement. “I assumed there would have been a crypt down here,” he says with some disappointment.

    Poor lighting, dark shadowy shots and a shaky handheld camera style are reminiscent of Ghost Hunters and the Blair Witch Project. At one point the narrator asks: “doesn’t it feel sinister?” The “infiltration” is punctuated by a series of unscripted mini-dramas which generate tension and “eerie vibes”. Unexplained voices. Footsteps. A blocked doorway. Holes in the floor.

    Another man, “Mike”, is also filming the church. Ten minutes into the video Mike’s face comes clearly into view as he steps in front of a huge door to demonstrate its scale. He is a slim white man, perhaps in his early twenties, sporting a dark moustache and wearing a Cambridge University sweatshirt with the hood up.

    Although they are clearly trespassing on private property, they don’t steal anything and take care not to cause any damage. At the end, Mike is filmed climbing out of the building and the location of the entry point is clearly visible. Upon leaving the premises they make a big show of thanking the homeless man who had earlier pointed them towards the gap in a boarded-up ground floor window.

    Consecrated in 1839 and then rebuilt in the early twentieth century this church has been unused for the best part of a decade. Five years ago there was a closing ceremony and the local priest removed a few items for safe keeping. It had lain empty for two years and before that it was judged to be structurally unsound and requiring repairs estimated to cost £1.5 million. The Church Commissioners, the Diocese and the Parochial Church Council agreed that it should close.

    With what seems like genuine awe, the narrator pauses at intervals to film and describe the architecture. His reaction is raw and filled with emotion; at times he seems overwhelmed by the scale and beauty of the building. There are gasps and “Wow guys” at the leaded windows, brick arches, stonework, craftsmanship, an abandoned rusting safe, the old clock mechanism.

    Even the creeping decay, the mould and a dead pigeon are given some appreciation. Like the character in a novel, he is conflicted, drawn by both light and dark. At twenty minutes into the film they both ascend a narrow stone staircase and gasp audibly when they are rewarded by the sight of the magnificent old church bell, still in its place. Their wonder becomes euphoria when they climb out onto the roof of the tower and see the city of Manchester illuminating the night sky.

    Their enthusiasm and sense of discovery are infectious. They seem gripped by the absolute wonder of it all. I am morally conflicted about what I’m seeing but feel drawn in and feel compelled to watch until the end. The producers of this film have attracted over 3,000 subscribers to their YouTube Channel and over 7,000 Facebook followers, describing themselves as historical documentarians, filmmakers and photographers. Their stated aim is to “record history on film”.

    Over one hundred of these “spooky” style videos have been produced and broadcast by these young men over the last two years. It’s an increasingly popular genre of video on YouTube and Facebook where people film themselves stalking through derelict stations or abandoned factories, places of worship, mills, pubs and farmhouses. On their social media accounts it’s implied that they aren’t technically “breaking and entering” but are in fact performing an important service for the public good.

    The “reading” of the old building, though ill-informed and sometimes colourful, is confident and unflinching. The narrator is no Kevin McCloud, that’s for sure. There is some confusion about when the building was built but he confidently reassures his fans that “this is quite literally ancient history down here.” At another point, he says it is “gothic and creepy”. Clearly, he’s a creative and curious soul who is thoroughly fascinated by the structures and their functions.

    Under the video on Facebook, the comments show peoples’ connection to the church. One man says he was a choirboy there in the 1970s. “My dad used to organise concerts in that cellar in the 60s,” says another. A woman who went to school next door remembers the church being used for school dinners. Someone remembers watching a Christian rock group there. A woman who says she was christened there in 1968 thanks the video makers for showing her around she writes: “I walk past here often and always wondered what the inside is like.”

    The comments show how central churches used to be in community life. In many areas, they were a hub of social activity and had close links to the schools. Families who weren’t very religious might still feel they were part of the local church; attending its dances and sending their children off to play sports in its grounds. The comments under the video might prompt us to think about what has replaced these spaces in our increasingly atomised communities. How feasible would it be to put some of these beautiful buildings back into use?

    As the pair slowly descend the narrow spiral staircase to make their escape, only the narrator’s legs and feet are in shot. Carefully placing one foot on each of the shallow stone steps, with great emotional intensity, he reflects on the experience of discovering the bell. “When you’re stood in front of it, in all its decaying glory, you realise the craftsmanship and the hardship that went into making such a thing, and putting such a thing into place, especially back in 1902,” he says. “Absolute gold dust.”

    Main photo credit: Val Fraser

    A longer version of this story was originally published by independent newspaper, The Manchester Mill.